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Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Buying The Best Books On Social Skills

By Beryl Dalton


There are certain skills we all use in relating and communicating with one another and some people are better at this than others. However, it is possible for people to improve these skills. One of the ways to do this is by reading helpful advice. The best books on social skills offer advice that really makes a difference.

A book must be written in a practical, understandable way to be most effective. The process of communication should be broken down and each component addressed. For behavior to change, practical, step by step advice is essential instead of just presenting theory.

The better ones will not teach tricks or gimmicks to help people artificially project more confidence. Instead, they encourage them to discover the true confidence within them. They encourage them to be honest and forthright and make fruitful and lasting friendships with others. Even those who suffer from social anxiety disorder and other related conditions can improve their interpersonal functioning.

Those who want to learn how to handle specific problems such as how to handle conflict, make small talk at a cocktail party or handle a business meeting will find guides addressing such issues. Some guides focus solely on body language and tone of voice. This is particularly helpful for those who feel that they never know what the other person is thinking when they are talking to them.

These guides are all formulated in different ways to get the material across. The better ones contain fairly easy to remember principles, rather than a lot of theory or abstract ideas. Valuable practical tips are often helpful but religiously following a list of tips is also not going to turn anyone into an overnight social success. Most of the better guides are written in such a way as to address principles of relating rather than just giving one tip after another.

One topic many people are interested in is conflict resolution. Conflict is often feared as it tends to cause hurt and withdrawal. However, conflict can be positive if used to deal with misunderstandings and provide common ground for moving forward. Learning how to deal with conflict in positive ways can make a great deal of difference in a marriage relationship and in a business environment.

Body language and tone of voice are often more important cues than what a person is actually saying. A book can teach one to pick up on these cues. Sometimes all the body signals a person could possibly project may be covered and this may actually over-complicate the issue. Focusing more on signals that reveal whether a person is open or closed is often more helpful and allows the person to focus on the conversation rather than trying to analyze body language all the time.

The better guides are usually written by authors who are qualified to address the subject matter and have years of experience behind them. Many of these are available from online stores at reasonable prices. Reading customer reviews is often helpful in selecting a book that can make a real difference.




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